Friday, April 25, 2014
Thursday, January 16, 2014
I want to share something from our morning, especially for parents of "whiny" and "fit-throwing" independently minded toddlers. This is my *very* independent, 21 month old daughter, happily eating a new-ish food.
That's actually really hard sometimes, getting Madeleine to eat new things. "Stuff" on toast has been a battle. (Weird, I know. Jam on toast is awesome.) She's had it on and off, but never very successfully. Today, after much prodding and careful questioning, she decided she would like toast for breakfast. I asked her if she wanted to try jam on her toast. She enthusiastically said yes. When I brought her her toast, she had a small fit. Whining, flapping her little hands, yelling "no no no!!!" I asked again, "Madeleine, you said you wanted toast, with jam. This is toast. Would you like toast?" She tearfully replied, "YES!" I sat down next to her and offered the toast again. She hesitantly reached for it, getting jam on her fingers and began to cry. I put two and two together at that point. She didn't want sticky fingers, can you blame her? I wiped her hands and explained that I would be happy to wipe them whenever she liked, if she'd eat her toast please. I again asked her to "try bites". She finally did, and she loved it!
Frequently, I read articles and blog posts about not letting children "manipulate" with tantrums. I hear to punish this behavior, or ignore her when she behaves that way. I submit another way. Perhaps, and I know I'm not the first to suggest this, tantrums are frustration at the inability to explain. Let's look at it another way. Many of us have tried to learn a new language, for example I speak very limited Spanish. Whenever I try to explain something, I frequently can't find the right words. I'm still learning. Sometimes, I get flustered and frustrated. Now if I, as an adult, get frustrated when I can't express what I'm trying to say, can you imagine what it might feel like for a toddler? If we keep that feeling in mind, and attempt patience in dealing with tantrums, our little ones will learn that we hear them and are willing to help them. If we punish, ignore, or lose our tempers with them, what are they learning? Not love, patience, or nurturing.
Breakfast today was not a quick event. It took us probably 20 minutes to work through it all before we ate. Seeing the look of trust and happiness on Madeleine's face made it all worth it. I know that it can be hard. I know that frustrated, bubbly-anger feeling that can boil up when your sweet angel is thrashing around like a little demon. If we can just remember to look at it through our child's eyes, it may be easier to get through the tantrum and back to the happy.
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Sunday, December 22, 2013
Thursday, October 17, 2013
Since July we have:
- Continued to be pregnant... despite our little boy attempting to make an early arrival from 27-37 weeks.
- I have been IN LABOR for ten weeks. At least 4 contractions per hour, EVERY hour, EVERY day. The most contractions in an hour thus far has been 15. Woof.
- We received some amazing news back in September. The First Presidency of the church granted our request to be sealed (married) in the Temple. In our church (much like in the Catholic Church) if you have been married previously in the Temple, you must go through a process to be allowed to be married in the temple a second time. In our case, it happened very quickly. Much more quickly than usual. We were able to be sealed on our first anniversary! Some couples wait years, so we were extremely surprised and grateful.
- Our sealing was on October 11th, 2013 in the Seattle Washington LDS Temple. We chose this temple because it is of special significance to us. My family was sealed there when we joined the church. I was just a year and a half older than Maddie! It was really neat to have our sealing there. Not very many of our friends and extended family were able to come, it was very short notice and far away from many of them... but it was lovely to have the ones there who could come.
- Grammy Pam and Papa Chris (John's folks) and Grandma Alda (John's maternal grandmother) stayed with us for a little while after the sealing. Maddie was basically in heaven. She still asks for "Ammy, Papa, and Ow-Bah" frequently. Hopefully we'll be able to see them all again in November for Thanksgiving.